I would like to apologise to other forum users (and especially Martin) as one of the guys getting argumentative in the now (notorious) closed thread. I feel guilty because I know this is an anxiety forum and that it was a departure from the usual good vibes here. I allowed myself to get too caught up in the argument and as Martin said the thing can take on a life of its own.
I know in my case I began to too closely identify with my side of the argument and that gave it an even greater "significance", effectively like going into fight or flight. Usually I would recognise this trait in myself since it is an issue from my dysfunctional family, my dad actually used to say "you should never walk away from an argument" but he could never see that however intellectual the argument was on the surface, the real force was our inability to express feelings to each other. My therapist is on holiday at the moment too, so I'm not managing my mental health as well as I can do at the other times.
So I'm honestly very sorry, I'm now sitting on the naughty step.
Mr Bob
