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Offline cooke13

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Hello all
« on: February 03, 2011, 03:51:24 PM »
Hi, this is a bold move for me. I've always felt different degrees of anxiety in social situations from around the age of 13, a fair amount of the time it was controllable and I had friends and could socialize. but in group situations it was terrible and I had a fair amount of panic attacks, especially with things like reading out in class. At the time it was hard and I was on occasions very depressed but in the back of my head I believed I would grow out of it and I would be fine. I'm now 21 and to a large extent not much has changed. I read someone else post they feel they are only living half a life, and I couldn't sympathize anymore, I don't think I lack confidence which is the strange thing, I'm just completely frozen and pathetic in situations that seem so trivial for the majority. It's only until recently that I've thought i need to get help as I've been getting increasingly frustrated and depressed with the state I've become and I can see complete loneliness may be on the horizon, I really hope I can find something on this forum and I thank everyone who has read the above, already much appreciated.

Offline Lou100

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Re: Hello all
« Reply #1 on: February 03, 2011, 04:49:53 PM »
Hello, I was just reading through your post as im new to all this too, well i registered a while ago and then forgot my password! so technically still new!

I can really relate to what your saying. I too am 21 and have been suffering from panic attacks and anxiety since my school days. I was recommended this site by my doctor. Ive found it really helpful and interesting even just reading through others posts and its always good to know im not alone with my problems.

I can understand what you mean when you say it makes you feel depressed, I find that having the panic attacks really gets me down as i stay away from alot of situations i find stressful and then realise im missing out on alot!

Feel free to message me anytime if you want to chat!


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« Reply #2 on: February 04, 2011, 06:16:44 PM »
Hi Cooke13 & welcome. I'm brand new to the forum as well, but your post rings so true to the way I frequently feel too. This week has been another dodgy one!

I agree about group situations. Away from a meeting situation I can be fine and reasonably confident, but the minute I'm in any meeting of more than about four people, it's like a switch flips in my head. The "let's make things difficult for ourself" switch is how it seems to be. I don't understand why this is, just because there are a few more eyes in the room. Rationally I know there is no problem, but in these situations rational and logic seem to go out of the window. Do you find this also?

Fortunately I have not had panic attacks, but my sympathies to go out to you and those that do have. Although I do sometimes think that some kind of 'run-away' attack is quite close. I do find trying to sit tight and act "normal" when under anxiety stress is incredibly draining on the mind. Do you?

Although it's some 20 years ago, I totally agree about reading or speaking to class at school. One of the things I liked about leaving school!

I really hope the forum helps you.

Offline Noisy

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« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2011, 03:17:31 PM »
Hi Cooke13 and welcome to the forum.

Do you think you would feel any more comfortable being in an informal group setting where others had experience of anxiety? I'm thinking that our meets may be of benefit to you whenever you feel ready.
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Offline cooke13

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« Reply #4 on: February 19, 2011, 09:22:17 PM »
Thank you for your replies and support, really appreciate it. I've spoken to a GP, who has in turn referred me to a specialist up at Brighton general, I'm now on a waiting list and have been given some good bits n bobs to read. I'm warming to the idea of meeting others from this group and think I'm ready to do so. I'l check out when you guys are next doing something and see if I can get over. Thanks again guys.

Offline Highball

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« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2011, 10:50:57 AM »
Welcome!  :)

ANXIETY SUCKS! Fortunately all of us here have been there (well, not fortunately, but you know what I mean!) If you feel up to a meet I definitely recommend going. I'm new as well and have been to two meets. Both times I found such welcoming and supportive folks! I've got work this Wednesday but I'm hoping to go back the week after, and as often as I can. Screw loneliness.

All the best,

Sam.